Here’s a sentence I heard in Spain last week: "Y sabes que al Murray no ligas" - ‘You know in Murray you won’t hook up with anyone.’ :/
Yeah that’s exactly the face I made! Murray is the name of a club. The situation was a friend speaking with another friend over the phone, deciding where to go to party. Based on this person’s info, Murray is the type of club where you won’t find a girl to hook up with. Does he go every week and has yet to find any interesting girls? Did he go just once and this happened? Whatever it was, this sounded like a belief that he had formed in his mind due to previous experiences. Beliefs limit us in many ways:
“Because I believe this, I can’t do that” or “because I do believe that, I can do this.”
“I am shy.”
“I am not creative.”
“I cannot find a nice girl out there.”
Just ask a number of different people whether they used to be shy, or they used to not be creative, and I guarantee you that there are people who used to be both these things but, because of their attitude, or their awareness of it, took steps to change it. Ask guys if they’ve hooked up with a girl in ‘Murray’ and I’m sure there are some who have done.
I would recommend not basing your life on lies or on things you have not even experienced.
Going to that club with the belief that there won’t be any interesting girls means that that's probably what’s going to happen! You will most likely miss them all as your brain has already made up its mind.
Think of the example of getting a new car. You suddenly start seeing that same car you want everywhere! It has become your focus, so you are open to seeing it. If you are focused on not finding any great girls you probably won’t find them. If you believe there will be hot girls you may find them! I know it sounds so simple, but please before you forget it, give it a try! And then let me know how it goes! :)
Your belief system is important. My advice? Base it on real experiences instead of on information you read or hear.
Please, as I always say, don’t just believe everything I say here straight away. Take away your own truth from it and use it practically.
Have a beautiful night/day!