Past traumas or "bad experiences" ---- Forget about them as soon as possible! Everyone is different and may not do what the previous person did unless you expect it to be so, in which case you are probably projecting that into the relationship. And the result will be the same in all your relationships. Things can be different.
The page you are on that moment ---- What are you looking for at the moment? A quick relationship, sex, a few dates for fun, a long-term relationship, or are you just focused on your career so have no time for anything? How does not thinking about any of these things and just enjoying the moment sound? Things will happen anyway, as your subconscious mind will act for you!
Understanding your Hormones/ How you feel today ---- Whether you’re on your period, you're super hot, you feel sexy, you need some cuddles & hugs, you just want to have a laugh, you do not want to be touched (or you do), you just want to touch, you had a great day and you feel like meeting someone (or the exact opposite), or even all of the above!
By respecting and accepting these three situations (please feel free to add any more that are missing as this is just the starting point and everyone is different) you will find it much easier to understand yourself and also the people you meet up with. Not everyone is in the SAME PLACE as you, or rather, no one else is!
Thank you for reading! :)