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Deciding which job to take VS deciding who to date

I know I tend to relate different things with each other, but that’s my nature, what can I do!!!!

Thinking too much when deciding something is usually not the best option. Do you remember the moments when you were spontaneous, when you didn't think much about whether you wanted to do something or not, but you just went for it?! As if something inside was telling you to? If you don’t remember, mmm keep thinking.


We can actually never know if a decision is right or not, as there is always an OPPORTUNITY COST, where we have to renounce something to get something else. So, whatever we do this will happen.
 
But sometimes we feel like something about certain decisions is right and we just go for it without thinking too much! Yeah I know sometimes when it doesn't go as expected, you learn and say ‘next time I will think twice about it!’ But if you keep on thinking, I am SURE there was at least A BENEFIT of having taken that decision. If you can’t think of one… keep thinking. ;)

Well, basically what I wanted to say is that these decisions that we spend weeks taking, analyzing the results, checking them twice, three and four times, asking everyone about it... you probably don’t really want!!! Just ask one question: Does it make you smile? But please make sure it is your HONEST SMILE!

When you start living in the present, understanding yourself and your feelings, you learn to say yes or no straight away, without regrets, and you usually get it right anyway, because you have also learnt from the wrong decisions too.

Wow I have been talking for a bit too long now! Ok, in conclusion here’s what I wanted to say. You may say you like a certain guy/girl because:
- He/ She is sexy
- He/ She is very responsible
- He/ She is very confident
- He/ She is the right father/mother
ETC
ETC
But you still question yourself about whether they’re the right person...

And what about the people that you like and you’re not sure why.
Doesn't it seem to be the same as when you make a decision so quickly that you don’t even know why you did it, but you just did it?!




Nerea


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